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By Lauren Deloach, Editor of Category5
In the year 2012, where women have basically been deemed the modern day superwomen who can do it all, why is it that in the style world so much of that confidence is lost? You can go to work, take care of your family, cook dinner, and all the while barely breaking a sweat under a multitude of tasks. But when it comes to you, the woman staring back at you in the mirror, limitations arise. Limitations not set upon you by society, but constraints you’ve placed on yourself. All the things you can’t do as it pertains to style. “I could never pull off a leather peplum top.” “There’s no way I could pull off wearing bold eye shadow.” Thoughts such as picking out a bright pink pencil skirt versus the standard khaki seem like distant notions. So what is it that drives a woman to tell these lies to herself and stay forever caged in a world of style she secretly hates? Fear of the unknown. I’ve found that for so many women, it’s always a “can’t” because there’s no point of reference as to what the reality of the “can” will equate to. So let’s break down just a couple of the fear factors women find themselves fixated over.
“A Superstar? Me?”
Yes you! A big part of women setting limitations on their style is the attention factor. Let’s be honest, if you’re wearing Jeffrey Campbell’s Flava Suede Pumps, it’s inevitable that women WILL stop you and ask you where in the world you purchased those fabulous shoes. If you’re looking edgy-chic in a Rag & Bone blazer featuring leather lapels, no question heads will turn (as they should!). There’s nothing wrong with owning your style, and stepping out of your comfort zone. Your first challenge: Pick one area of style you’re nervous to try, and just do it! If you’re the chick living in black and white all the time, challenge yourself to wear at least one piece of clothing or accessory that is colorful. If you’re afraid to rock out a full-on leather top, choose a top with leather accents (think Twenty Leather Panel Long Sleeve Tee, which features leather accents at the shoulder).
“Don’t believe the hype.”
It’s as clear as day that the types of styles that are exposed to women in the media don’t line up with reality. If that weren’t the case, there wouldn’t be an entire generation of women in their 50s and 60s wondering where in the world they’re actually supposed to be shopping at. As if something clicks in a woman’s brain after the age of 40 and she suddenly could care less to see a likeness of herself on the magazine rack. Regardless of how young that chick is rocking out that Theory yellow and navy colorblock sweater with Alice + Olivia red wide leg pants, you can and SHOULD be donning that same family of style. The classics are the classics, no matter your age. It’s how you accessorize those classics with your own personal taste that take that look to a place you’re comfortable to be in.
In so many cases, the only person holding you back from style greatness is no one other than you. Ignore that voice telling you all that you can’t do, and get on with the business of being fabulous!
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