On March 29 women’s libidos around the world froze over when international pop sensation Ricky Martin confessed he was indeed “a fortunate homosexual man.”
In his first televised interview since admitting his sexuality, Martin talked with Oprah Winfrey on Tuesday about his immediate reaction following his announcement. “I was alone in my studio…and my assistant walked in, and I just started crying like a little baby,” he revealed. He went on to say that his tears were tears of happiness because he felt he could finally love himself completely.
So what was the final straw that made him come out? Just like pop star Clay Aiken, it was fatherhood. His newborns—sons Matteo and Valentino—whom he had through a surrogate in 2008 gave him the impetus to be true to himself.
“Am I going to teach them how to lie?” the pop star said he asked himself when his sons were born. “I want them to be proud of their dad; I want them to be proud of themselves.”
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But that road to sexual liberation was a strenuous process for Martin—not only because of his cultural and religious constraints—but also because of the constant bombardment of being asked about his sexual status. His 2000 Barbara Walters interview was a prime example of what pushed him away from dealing with it. “I was feeling she was beating me up,” he confided to Oprah about Walter’s upfront question on whether he was gay. “I wasn’t ready; it was not my moment…you have to go through a spiritual process.”
Referring to anecdotes about his steamy love affairs with women in his new memoir ME, the host asked Martin—who’s currently in a gay relationship—where he fit in the sexuality spectrum, to which he replied he was unequivocally homosexual and didn’t think he was the first gay man to have fallen for women at some point.
So what was the biggest lesson the 38-year-old learned about living in fear? “That it’s all in your head,” the former Menudo pop star said. “If you allow your emotions [and] uncertainty to seduce you, if you allow people’s thoughts and insecurities to feed your insecurities, that’s it. You just have to get rid of fear, confront the world…and say to yourself: ‘I love you and nothing will destroy you and you’re not going to fall.’”